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[00:00:18] Find out more at podbread.com So I met up with a dear friend of mine, someone I've known for about 20 years or so and I like this person because We don't talk often, but when we talk is quality quality conversations So
[00:01:08] We met up for about three hours or so shared stories caught up with each other's lifestyles and one thing we talked about was Certain friendships that we Know have come to its end and We talked about
[00:01:33] How we don't like always being the first one to reach out to somebody because that gets old we get old and That gave me an idea The topic that we don't talk about enough is One-sided friendships What are they and how can you get out of them?
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[00:02:13] You can find it at Dreya Point So one sign of a one-sided friendship is that they don't share much They deflect and avoid sharing any intimate details. I Know a few people like that or actually knew a few because I don't really associate with them at all
[00:02:33] They want to know everything About my business but reveal very little of themselves You know my dad once told me that there are two types of people givers and takers Some people just don't give much
[00:02:52] They take whatever they can from you. They seldom check in but have no problem asking for a favor I mean, I hate asking for anything and I seldom do But when I do It's nice to get some reciprocation I
[00:03:09] Do get life circumstances, you know, but a healthy relationship is give and take open lines of communication I Had someone do me a favor a few months ago and We hadn't seen each other in some time prior to that mind you when we did communicate
[00:03:26] I was the one to reach out first So what's one of the first thing she says to me? I haven't seen you in two years. Who does that? Who counts how long it's been? I mean, was it my fault last I checked
[00:03:40] I didn't realize she was a celebrity and the phone works both ways She actually brought it up again later too and her actions Just made me realize that we outgrew each other and Needless to say I haven't heard from her since One-sided friendships leave you questioning yourself
[00:04:02] You should always know where you stand with someone and I think if you have to question it then maybe you should leave I have an old friend who Lives nowhere near me
[00:04:15] Not only checks in on me, but always lets me know how much I mean to her. I think more people should do that One-sided friendships can make you feel rejected and lead you to have negative self-talk
[00:04:28] They can also make you feel lonely. I mean who wants to feel that way in a friendship What can you do to fix this type of relationship? well
[00:04:40] Having a conversation is the best way in my opinion. I've actually done that with someone who I was very close to and Have known her for about 20 years as well I told her I noticed a disconnect and she took no accountability
[00:04:56] She deflected and actually threw up something that she did for me It was definitely over at that point I mean it hurt for a while because she was like family because of our history together But unfollowing and nurturing other friendships helped and it definitely takes time
[00:05:13] I haven't seen a lot of post about it on threads about how no one really talks about Losing a friendship because it's like a death you can take a step back. It's okay to invest your time in other people
[00:05:30] Change how you interact with them if you're the main one doing the texting try suggesting calling instead Ask for what you need Ask for emotional support if you're feeling lonely make it known How to end that One-sided friendship stop reaching out
[00:05:54] Once you cut them off stand by that decision Don't get a moment of weakness and contact them again Be vocal and see if there is a chance You may get an apology, but change behavior is best Get support from those you trust go where the love is
[00:06:16] spend time with those who don't mind your company friendship loss is is It is it really I said, it's it's really like a death you go through so many emotions Therapy may be a solution as well. I
[00:06:32] Wanted to read a post that I saw on threads to end this episode from thought catalog At the end of the day, it's about the people who are by your side when life gets hard It's about the people who are there when you need them the most
[00:06:46] It's about the people who say we've got this when you are facing challenges It's about the people who notice when you're not yourself It's about the people who check in on you when you have been more quiet than usual
[00:06:57] It's about the people you'd rather sit in comfortable silence with than make small talk with I Would love to know how you handle one-sided relationships or friendships What way worked for you? feel free to send a comment to Drea's point of view at yahoo.com and
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