Annual Mental Health and Fitness Chat (2025)

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[00:00:56] Jacoby Bates, who is a weight loss and mental mastery coach. And once again, we also have Tasha from The Heart and Huddle. You help coach people on stronger marriages, family, relationships, power connection. But man, like Instagram's been on fire. I don't know who's setting up ads and everything, but it's wonderful. I'm always seeing new personas online towards like, oh, I got to pick your brain.

[00:01:24] We're always doing roundtable panels and we just had some other friendship and mental health and relationship people on last night. And that was fun, too. While Jacoby's setting up, Natasha, would you care to say a little bit about yourself, how Heart and Huddle came to be? Yeah. So my name is Natasha and I am the founder and owner of Heart and Huddle. Basically, I'm a life coach in Heart and Huddle. It just came because I'm a coach's wife.

[00:01:53] So a lot of people is kind of it's just if you're a coach's wife or if you're a wife, period, or you're just in relationships, it's it's difficult at times, you know, and you just try to figure out how to navigate things. And for me, starting this was to give back. I'm able to give back and help others because I've learned a lot.

[00:02:21] And I've been able to been able to learn a lot of things and basically just want to set everyone up for success in all their relationships. Help them build strategies. That's wonderful. And I think why I wanted to reach out to you is just I applaud anyone for doing that kind of thing.

[00:02:42] It doesn't have to be uncomfortable. It's hard to kind of deconstruct it for everybody because a lot of people of any magnitude like to kind of just do a blame game. Like, I'm not doing enough of this or it's the other person. I've done the work. And it's finger pointing time. And it's like, no, no, no. I like my father and I were having a casual conversation today, for instance. This is different, but similar. Like we were just trying to review a product that helps with better sleep.

[00:03:11] And next thing you know, like we're just going for the reviews. There's the corporate reviews that are paid for. And then there were just the I don't like how the one spokesperson who talks about this product on air. I'm like, that is irrelevant. I asked you a simple question. Do you like the product or could it use some work? You know, it's just like and how would you say you're good at de-escalating and getting to the core of the issues? Would you say?

[00:03:39] Basically, just looking into yourself, just asking yourself, is it me? Is it them actually intentionally listening to what someone is saying? Like my post that I made this week is just being intentional in everything. And it's just when you're communicating to a person, being able to just. Just small steps.

[00:04:09] Small steps. I love it. Small steps. Whether. That's lovely. Sorry. No, I'm just saying that. I'm just saying that's lovely. Like small steps. Breaking it down one bit at a time instead of it's all got to get done right now. Yeah. And just like saying a kind word to someone, actually saying thank you and meaning it. Just anything.

[00:04:38] So basically just whatever I can to help give you the strategies on how to succeed in your relationships with others. And it's kind of so like I love talking about it, but it's always every person is different. What they're what they want to talk about and what they're having struggles with.

[00:05:01] But when you think about it, we're all have the same struggles and we're all dealing with the same things. And we do just sometimes we have to look inside ourselves and just try to. Do the work on ourselves and like you said, not blame others. And like I was saying, as far as with the relationship with my husband and listen to what people are actually saying.

[00:05:27] So actively listening when people are talking, you know, listening to understand and not just to respond. So it's a lot of a lot of different insights. No, that's wonderful. It's what have you had returning customers? Yes. So, like I said, I'm a coach's wife.

[00:05:54] So I've had a lot of coaches wives and that have come to me. Basically, our our husband's jobs, they just require a lot from them sometimes. So a lot of overtime, the overtime, the seven days a week, just different things. So it's not just for that. But I've had a lot of coaches wives come to me because of that.

[00:06:17] Just trying to navigate those relationships, navigating how do you not put the your you know, how do you feel that your husband puts the career before his family? Just different things like that. And just giving different insights and outlooks on those things. But yes, I do. And I have a workbook. So we work together. I'm an accountability partner.

[00:06:44] We deal in the so we basically deal in the present. So I'm not a therapist. We don't go back into your childhood. I don't do anything. You maintain progress. Yes. So basically, we're just trying to see where we are now and where we want to go. So and I just help you get there. We just take the steps and we do it. And most of the time, most times it's already in you. You just need a little help to get to where you need to go.

[00:07:14] So much like a therapist where you are to validate everybody, repeat back what they're doing and. Give them an outline and then see where they're comfortable shifting and working on instead of, you know, do this, do that. Does this work for you? You know, yes. Coming up with the game plan and just different game plans.

[00:07:42] Like if you I don't know. Have you been to the website? I did check out the website and I see also that. But but man, like the Instagram video was whatever you had set up on the ad. It told everything I needed to know without being overcomplicated. So good. Good work on your marketing team, because I can't tell you how many confusing ads I've encountered where I'm like, so what does this do again?

[00:08:12] You know, I for instance, I saw someone who had like. It was a self-help site, but it looks more like an accounting site. OK, so it was just a confusing setup, even though they had done most of the work with how to book, how to set this up. So it was cool that you had it pretty much all together is like, yeah, no, like I've you've said all the keywords and, you know, relationships and what have you.

[00:08:42] And how to. Make it work for both parties as well as goal setting. So how long have you been around? Is this more recent? Yes. So I've been doing it for a year and a half now. And I've been so I actually have been studying it. And now I'm actually. Doing it like I'm marketing myself and put myself out there more.

[00:09:10] So it was like being done, but not to the extent that I am now. Gotcha. No, very cool. And just the tagline alone was good. Every relationship deserves a winning strategy. It's like, OK, cool. So. Yeah. It doesn't have to be a conquering mission. It doesn't have to be a losers and winners. It's like, no, let's let's just make this a mountain that you're going to eventually walk up. Yes.

[00:09:39] We're all going to win. Yes. Yeah. And again, five step process. This was cool because much like. The other relationship experts that they also broke it down into five steps. And. Why do you think just the five step process has always been not just universal, but like just. The easiest way to kind of outline it for everybody. So it's not that was too easy and it's not. I did half of it like it's.

[00:10:09] It's better, I guess, at just. Making it more complete. Yeah. Making it complete. Just having that clarity and the structure, the action oriented behind it. Wonderful. Mm hmm. And the progressiveness and the growth from it. And then just kind of the consistency with it. The consistency.

[00:10:38] Well, when I say consistency, like with my brand. So those five steps help that. Right. Have you ever had to like remind any. Anyone just like, hey, you're on the right track, but you're getting distracted again. Without. Yeah. Hard conversations. Yes, we do that. I have had to have that.

[00:11:07] Hard conversations just because. And it's OK, because, you know, that's the whole. That's the whole reason that we're doing it. It's OK, we're not going to always. It's kind of like when the new year comes for people and everybody's like, oh, I'm about to be in the gym. Right. I'm going to live. And you're doing the word, but you're not learning anything. Yes. Yes. And you're just like, OK, this is what I'm going to do. And you just go all in.

[00:11:37] And then it's just like, oh, after the third or fifth day, you like, oh. Back to your same way. Bring that up. I've done that with a job and I've done the same when I've been on the hot seat. I've always been like, hey, you know, I've given this two hours. I'm still not clear on what you would want from me. I'm calling, you know, I'm calling a spade a spade instead of, you know, giving you a maybe answer, which is not going to do either side any good. You know? Yes, exactly.

[00:12:34] Exactly. You know, or hey, I like this job, but I don't like the hours. You know, can I change them? Or should I try applying some other time? You know, it's interesting just seeing how a few questions like open up so many more doors instead of just, I don't like this reality. I reject it, you know? Right. And you have to trust the process, too. Yeah. Oh, man.

[00:13:06] So have you had any just like people like returning like in the past? Like those be like, hey, I did it before. I'd like to improve on it again. Honestly, I have had a friend that has done that. She's like, I need you again. Oh, nice. Okay. Yeah. But yes. Oh, and why do you think you're so comfortable with it?

[00:13:36] Because, you know, some people don't like getting too personal. You said, why do I feel like I'm so comfortable? Yeah, with this kind of advice giving and this kind of profession. I just love helping people. And it's just always been in me something that I like to do.

[00:14:01] And I've always been the friend that everyone calls and asks for advice or just wants to share. Even strangers, I could be sitting somewhere and a stranger may just, before I leave, they've shared their whole life story with me. So it's just something that I have, you know, that's just in me. And it's for me, it's giving back. And like I said, I've lived it.

[00:14:28] So I've lived, I've experienced different things in life and I just enjoy helping others. And I just enjoy giving people tools to succeed. I just like to see I'm kind of the type that wants everyone to move forward in life. Give a win. And yes. And if I can help you do that, then that's what I try to do. But as they say, I can lead you to the water. I can't make you drink.

[00:14:58] Right. But my goal is to make you drink the water, you know. That's one of my favorite jokes. You can get to the mountain. Can't make you go up there and drink from the fountain. Right. Hey, what's up, guys? Sorry about that. No, that's awesome. Okay. But the round table is still going. So, Jacoby, once again, so you're a fitness coach. Yes. Again, relationship and fitness is not the same thing.

[00:15:26] But you both are clearly hands-on trainers. How did you get into fitness and better personal health? Are you asking me or her? Jacoby, yes. Okay, yes. So, man, my fitness journey started about two and a half years ago. And I was on the brink of death. I was a recovering alcoholic.

[00:15:56] Or I'm actually a recovering alcoholic and drug addict. So, I was getting heavy into drugs really, really bad. And to the point where I was waking up in the hospital. And, yeah, I was fighting for my life. I ended up getting left by my ex-fiancee of 10 years. And then I checked myself into rehab. And then I kind of made a promise to myself while I was in rehab that I was going to change my life. And then when I got out of rehab, I stepped foot into my apartment gym.

[00:16:26] And then the rest is history, man. And now I have my own coaching business. And I'm helping people all across the world lose weight and get into fitness. Yes. So, man, God is good. He really helped me shape my life. That's. And isn't it funny how it always comes out of left field? Kind of. Like, you guys have said a lot about yourselves. But I'll let you in on a bit of the back story here. So, the reason I've been doing more of this is I had a two-year battle with insomnia.

[00:16:57] Just out of left field. I rarely had any issues sleeping. You know, there would always be the, oh, we got a flight, you know, and we got to get up at free at the crack of dawn. Or we got an exam, you know, in college to pass. But usually by even four, you know, I would get my seven hours, you know.

[00:17:19] And for whatever reason, I found out the long way is like, hey, I'm doing, I got a fitness routine that now works for, you know, it's legit stuff. You know, there's resistance training. And I'm sure you guys have heard of HIIT, which is high interval intensity training. It's easier to work in. So, you know, you can work it in on the day of Thanksgiving. You know, it's not, it doesn't take forever.

[00:17:47] And it does exert your body and make him say, hey, you know, I worked out for today. But I was having to do some diet changes and everything. But then I did do some actual, I did actually go and do six sessions with a therapist and realized, whoa, you know. I thought I had a lot of stuff, like, put away. But I'd never actually addressed it. Right. And it was just always just dumb stuff.

[00:18:16] Like, hey, that person at work, you know, five years ago was really rude to you. But I never talked to anyone about it. I just complained. So, I exerted that and increased that negative energy that I thought I had put away. You know, it just, and so I just, it was really empowering to me. I always knew little small stuff could build up. But we all like to think, hey, I'm good. And it's like, no, I'm not good.

[00:18:41] That, that, that racked up and I shouldn't have let it build up to that, you know. And it's interesting how stuff that we don't think bothered us really did. And I'm not talking just someone was, you know, rude to you on the highway while getting to work. Or someone made a sarcastic remark that you took out of context.

[00:19:05] It's like, no, this is just, it's amazing how just any kind of factor can, if you just don't talk it out, can lead to a consequence. No, I agree. 100%. So, you, I take it, fitness is just, I, I always have respected it.

[00:19:26] But now I really even more respect it because it's interesting how so many people will, who are coming to you will always be, and I'm sure, Natasha, you've had this too with relationships. It's amazing how, for everyone who just needs to find an alternate plan or has, is already halfway on the right track.

[00:19:48] There's always others who you come, who will come to you who are completely insecure, have been teased, have all these, you know, negative thoughts about themselves. How would you say you deflate a lot of that and remind them, hey, you have a goal, you know, you're human. I don't know where you're getting this negative energy from, but it doesn't have to keep happening.

[00:20:18] Is that for me? That's for Jacoby, but I'll circle around. Okay, yeah, no, go ahead. You said how do I deflate that? Yeah. Yeah, so, you know, kind of being in that position and just having had faced those battles before, you know, I understand the, it's almost like the emotional cycle of change, right? Like, you're making a change with your life and it's exciting and it's new and everything's good.

[00:20:45] But then eventually you, you kind of come to the realization that, oh shit, this is, this is hard work. Changing my life is hard work, right? Like in all this stuff. And so the way I kind of deflate that is I kind of run them through the emotional cycle of change and I kind of step back and I analyze it from a third person perspective. And I tell them, hey, listen, this is where you're at in your journey. You are right here. And I pull up a diagram and I get on a call with them, pull up a diagram. I say, you're right here.

[00:21:13] And if you keep going, eventually you're going to spike back up and you're going to get back to informed optimism, you know? So let's just keep moving through this process, you know? Informed optimism. I love it. Yes, yes. So that's kind of how I deflate it because that's what change is, man. It's uncomfortable. It's nerve wracking. It's uncertainty. But that's where the most growth happens. So that's what I kind of try to explain to my clients.

[00:21:38] And, you know, obviously fitness has changed my life completely. I was almost 300 pounds and now I'm in the best shape of my life. I don't know if you guys have checked out my IG, but I'm helping out a bunch of people. Yes, you have a lot. And again, your ad was so straightforward. I was like, that looks like a great workout routine. I should give that a try in the future. Isn't it funny how you will always encounter someone who does the whole, they're not trying to be toxic or anything, but they do the whole, I'm good, man.

[00:22:08] It's like, I didn't force this on you. I didn't say you had to, but I just offered, you know? Yeah, yeah. Yeah, I get it. I would sometimes share some cool product that I found with friends and without fail, like, let's say it's a group of 10 and like one to two say, I'm good, man. It's interesting how we get all this extra resistance. It's like, I didn't say you had to buy this.

[00:22:38] I didn't say you needed this product. I just am throwing it out there. Just FYI. Well, it's just like the product changed my entire life, you know? So it's like, hey, you got to put it out there in the universe. And if it works for me, it could definitely work for somebody else. So that's all it is, man. Right? Right. It doesn't have to even have a number put on it.

[00:23:02] It's just like, hey, how do you, Natasha, have you ever had to remind anyone just like there's all kinds of investments and they don't all have to be financial. It's like there's a personal investment that one can make. In yourself. Yes. And it's just interesting having to break that down. Everyone's like, investment, investment.

[00:23:30] It's amazing. It always goes insulating money. It's like, no, no. I'm talking about you. Right. I think that's kind of what's going crazy with the world today because a lot of people are thinking that investment is monetary. But no, the biggest investment you can make is your time. And if you make your investment and your time into somebody, that is the biggest form of love and an act of service towards another human being. Money is just imaginary.

[00:24:00] And a lot of people have their priorities pretty mixed up nowadays. Mm-hmm. Indeed. I've had my share of encountering people who were at a job they did not like. And they would, to neglect it even more, they would make up lies. I'm valued around here. I'm like, I'm not here to get political, but I can tell you, you're not very valued around here.

[00:24:27] Like, the boss is calling you in on your holidays off. Like, who does that? You know? Yeah. I can understand if it was just an extra day and it was really short stuff, but like, he called you on your vacation. Oh, yeah. But he means, well, no, no, no. Just hear me out. Like, you need to worry about yourself right now. And it's interesting how, yeah.

[00:24:53] Like, so, Jacoby, have you ever had, like, to kind of remind... Yeah. Well, we've all had our share of having a friend who wants to come home after college or after work and just kind of complain. Yeah. Sometimes they mean well, but other times, like, that's just how they're built. They haven't had a chance to really reset themselves. Yeah.

[00:25:22] And how do you kind of open up a goal setting for them where you just say, hey, this is about the fifth time you come here where we're enjoying each other's company, but you kind of aimlessly complain. Yeah. And you don't seem to want to – you seem to just want us to hear you out, but you don't seem to want to make any goal change. How can I give you a goal to set? Yeah, absolutely.

[00:25:45] So the way I do this is I kind of – because the only reason why they're complaining in the first place is because their brain is in the past or it's in the future. They're thinking about their shitty job and the experience that they just had, and then they're projecting it onto the people around them. But what I do is I say, hey, listen, let's get into this present moment now. It's me and you here. You're not at that location anymore. You're right here.

[00:26:11] And look how that location is allowing or like controlling your emotions and controlling who you are as a person. Like that place doesn't have control over you. You have control over you. And so I tell them to just lock into this moment right here and think about what's the first step I need to make to change this situation rather than spending my precious energy and time thinking about my past situation that I just went through.

[00:26:40] Let's think about a way that we can build towards a future that doesn't involve that current situation, and let's start moving forward. Lock in right now. Let's take the first step, and let's get going. You know what I'm saying? I love that. See? And living in the past, it's a common thing. It's the worst. Yeah. It's a terrible common thing. When I realized, wow, I had all these things I didn't realize annoyed me.

[00:27:09] I never spoke to anyone about it. I never complained about them. But they had still built up and impacted me in an unusual way. Yeah. Yeah. And again, it's easy to be bad at something, and it's harder to be good at something. But when you get better at something, it really is a great emotional reward. Hell yeah.

[00:27:36] What's been the best emotional reward so far, Mr. Bae? For helping people come up with a plan and fitness goal? Yeah. Yeah. So my biggest, the best emotional feeling, I would say, is just that. You know, seeing somebody unlock their true potential. I've had people lose like 80 pounds with me.

[00:28:03] And to kind of like see them in their day-to-day, you know, their routine has changed. Their charisma is different. Their energy is much higher. They're vibrating on a higher frequency. They're attracting more. It just becomes, you become, like when you unlock your body's true potential, you got to realize your body is a temple. And so when you tap into that, like weird stuff begins to happen. You start to carry yourself at that high frequency. You start to attract things. You start to get into that mind of abundance.

[00:28:33] So that feeling of watching somebody experience that is life-changing for me because I know when I started experiencing like abundance instead of scarcity, you know, my life completely changed and it became just that. It became abundant. I became grateful for everything. I became, you know, everything was a lesson. And a learning experience. It just, nothing was a loss and everything was a lesson. And it's nice to be able to give that gift to other people too.

[00:29:02] That's wonderful. Natasha, what's been the best compliment you've been given so far for helping people work on nitpicks on their relationships? What Jacob said was so good. And I, and I feel, and I just, I feel that too. I mean, just being able to, for people to just see their potential to actually tap into

[00:29:30] who they really are, to see the growth. And just when it comes to their relationships, whether it's a mother that they had fallen out with or dad that they may not have been too close to. Just to see whatever that growth and how that relationship has, because they aren't looking in the past and are not holding on to past things.

[00:29:54] Like you said, when we think about childhood or what a parent may have done to us when we were little and we hold it over their head. And once you get older and you realize you're like, okay, you know, they're learning just like I'm learning. You know, I'm an adult. They were learning. They're learning. I'm learning. We're all just learning. And so when everyone, for me is when everybody has the aha moments and they learn and they realize that we're all learning.

[00:30:23] We're all trying to figure it out, but we can be better and we can work to do better and wanting to do it. And like, I got this, you know, and just feeling confident in themselves, realizing that they can do it. They have the tools. They need to do it. They just have to do it. You know, they just have to do it. Yeah. No, that's that's amazing.

[00:30:47] I used to have some friends who behind the scenes, they would kind of talk smack about their folks. And I was like, hey, man, your folks are really cool. They didn't believe it. They're just like, yeah, but he's telling me when I have to do my homework. Well, and see, I was so used to finding. Isn't it interesting how a lot of people, when they want to problem solve, they either do plan A or B. I was the king of doing the plan C.

[00:31:17] I'll get my homework done at the in-between period during lunch. And so then I can come home and do whatever and then go to bed or joke around or party. It's interesting how. And no one complained because you're like, yeah, hey, you're doing good because you're ahead of the curb. You took it serious. And one great thing my dad used to tell me when I was getting back from college, he's like, so you did the time you did the work.

[00:31:46] Did you feel like you actually learned something from the class? And I was like, see, I really valued that kind of input. I was like, see, yeah, I don't. This teacher was nice, but I didn't really learn too much in that curriculum and vice versa. Like this curriculum was good, but I wasn't a great student in that class because it was really demanding. And I should have, regardless of how I applied myself, it was really, really complex. And I should have prepped for it a little better, I think.

[00:32:16] Yeah, live and learn. But yeah, and that's the other thing too. Isn't it funny how you have to remind people you have to fail? Yes, fail forward. It's only bad if you keep making the mistake and you don't learn from it. Yes. We don't want to make the same ones. And if we do, we want to learn, hopefully learn from that one and get up and do it again. Yes. Yeah. Well, that's the thing too, right?

[00:32:42] Like, you know, the universe will send you the same test over and over and over again until you pass that test. Yes. Yes, yes, yes. I've had to recently, as another side personal quest, I've had to remind people signs of a scam. Yeah, yeah. That they have, it's almost always around the holidays and it, without fail, it'll come in the form of a, it used to be just a deceptive message that you don't open.

[00:33:09] It's like, now it can be in the form of a very deliberate text. Like, oh, your bank account has been hacked. And lo and behold, you know, reverse psychology, you know, it was like, booyah, I just hacked your account. And you just clicked the link. So, it is interesting having to remind people, it's like, okay, so what does a scammer look for? Think of it just like that bully on the playground. Or that teacher who you felt was giving you punishment homework, you know.

[00:33:39] Or, again, that parent who meant well but said it in a very stress-inducing way. Is like, they used fear. So, don't, it's interesting having to tell people, don't fear anymore. Like, and. Yeah. Mm-hmm. Because then you have to kind of ask yourself, what am I actually afraid of? Besides trying. All right. Well, you gotta just be courageous, man.

[00:34:08] There's a lot to be afraid of. Mm-hmm. You know, I'm afraid, I'm afraid all the time, man. You know? Yeah. Yeah. I always found it funny growing up. Like, you'll see people who are in pop culture, they're afraid of something just because they've seen a bad movie that had something in that fearful context. And it's like, yeah, you know, snakes are actually not going to go out of their way to bite you. You know? They're not all venomous. Same thing with sharks. We go, oh, no, a shark.

[00:34:37] It's like, well, a shark is going to be often in the middle of the ocean, and it's only going to come to you if you bump into it or if they smell blood. No, it's not like the movies where, oh, I see you. You're done. You know, it's interesting having to tell people, it's like, well, the thing you're afraid of, have you actually read up on it? No, but I saw a, you know, now-to-date documentary on it. I'm like, okay. A lot has changed since, you know? Mm-hmm. 100%.

[00:35:07] Does anyone care to share any dieting or food tips that you've had to kind of explain away? I know I've had to tell people that the whole warm milk before bedtime is kind of a fad. That's never really been a thing. But a lot of people will do it because it makes them feel good, but there's no science behind any of the, it will make you sleep better. Facts, facts.

[00:35:37] I don't think it does. One of the things that I like to teach my clients around nutrition is, and I'm not a registered dietitian, so I can't legally give meal plans or anything. But I can't teach people different strategies on how to eat and eat smart. So I preach a non-restrictive, you know, eat whatever you want diet as long as you're getting high protein and you're tracking your macros.

[00:36:04] So our body burns a specific number of calories every single day. And depending on how active you are depends on how much your body's burning per day. So a lot of people, you want to lose weight, think that, oh, if I eat less, then I'll lose weight. So they end up eating one meal a day or two meals a day. But here's the tricky part.

[00:36:30] Those one or two meals are still over their calorie limit for the day of what their body's burning. So they still end up gaining weight even though they're eating less food. So I help them get that number that they're burning every single day. And I teach them how to track their calories so they can predictably lose fat off of their body over a given amount of time. Like say it's 12 weeks. Hey, we're going to lose two pounds a week.

[00:36:57] We're going to be at 24 pounds lost in three months. So and I can predictably, you know, promise my clients these results if they stay on track with their nutrition as far as like tracking their calories and hitting their protein goals. But yeah, a lot of people have that misconception when it doesn't really matter what you eat. You could eat 2000 calories of straight cupcakes and still lose weight. It's not what you eat. It's how much of it you eat.

[00:37:26] No, that's some good points, too. I always find when looking at the food label on something like you have to look even closer. It's work, but it's worth it. It's saying, OK, this is saying there's this much, you know, sugar, these kinds of oils, this kind of sodium. But look at where you got to do a little math on it.

[00:37:47] It says per serving and like, OK, so yeah, no family losing some of those ingredients make you feel like absolute dog shit. And that's why I try to preach to like, hey, whole nutrient dense foods like, you know, one ingredient foods like an apple is an apple. An apple isn't an apple plus 30,000 ingredients. But, you know, a lot of people, a lot of people be struggling with that type of stuff.

[00:38:15] So and then they will go throughout their day feeling like crap. And I'm like, well, you know, this is why you feel like crap. Switch those foods out for these. And, you know, at the end of the day, I don't preach 2000 calories worth of cupcakes. But like, you know, it just goes to show you you can lose weight, obviously, with anything. Much like I'm sure, you know, you want to exercise earlier in the day and everything. I take a lot of my essential pills and enzymes beginning of the day as soon as I start. So I can absorb over time.

[00:38:45] And by 8 p.m. I am done eating now. That's my new thing. And it's I hate having to tell people it is like, OK, I'll I'll eat the leftovers tomorrow. And they're like, oh, you can't eat it now. I'm like, no, I'm I'm done for now. I need to digest. That's factual. Natasha, what what have you noticed how I mean, we're all dealing with different moods and everything. Have you noticed how certain foods kind of.

[00:39:13] Are better in moderation versus you can have as many of these to impact your mood. Food. No, I haven't. I know that when I do I like my green smoothies. I feel really energized in my celery water. I like drinking celery water. And it makes me feel energized. And also, I'm like he said, I'm not a doctor or anything.

[00:39:43] But when it comes to mood, I have I do take magnesium. Yes. I heard a lot about that. Yeah. And then really, I usually take it before I go to bed at night. You could take it throughout the day in the morning if you want to. But I usually just take it at night. But I feel really when I go to sleep, I feel really relaxed and I wake up in a good mood, too. Awesome. Mm hmm. I have to go get me some magnesium.

[00:40:12] Yeah, I think you would dig it. There's a lot of healthier markets that will sell some of those in different cities. Yeah, I but it is all interesting how it all kind of interconnects like one thing impacts the other. You can have a good workout one day, but if you're still stressed out. Oh, absolutely. You haven't cleared. There's a reason they say take a walk.

[00:40:38] Walking helps and getting some natural vitamin D helps to like just go outside and get to let the sun. I love just standing in the sun sometimes like, OK, let me go stand in the sun and get some vitamin D right now. Right now. Right now. Yeah, I agree, man. I agree. Get some vitamin D and I stay out in the weather, man. It's it makes you feel so good.

[00:41:08] I made a video about that the other day because I am a recovering drug addict alcoholic. I said I made a post. I said, if you really want to get high, get out in the sun and feel right. Instead of I had a natural bedroom. Like legitimately. Yeah. And and I take some of those other vitamins, especially for when it gets darker earlier on daylight savings.

[00:41:35] I love taking some of those other ADK and yeah, melatonin is good. But like I take some of the other vitamin A and D add on stuff as well, because you still want those, especially on a cloudy day where even though you're in the you're technically outside, there's not as much sunlight. You want to just always your body always needs a bunch of it. So don't treat it right. You know. Yeah, I agree. And I agree.

[00:42:05] But yeah, this has been a delight. Just summing up how we all want to balance so many factors out. Absolutely. It's hard. It's hard, but it doesn't have to be work. That is what you just said there is actually amazing because you know what I've come to find out is that, you know, I used to have this perception that you have to literally grind your way to the top. Right.

[00:42:32] You must suffer before you're rewarded. But I've been the happiest I've ever been. And I've been elevating so quickly. And because my frequency is so high and I'm finding joy and enlightenment and gratitude. I am just literally creating opportunity after opportunity after opportunity because you bet your ass if you walk through the day with a shitty attitude. You feel like crap about yourself. You're eating bad food. You're unhealthy. The people that you need in your life, you're not even going to attract them.

[00:43:02] But if you're in that high frequency and you're in shape and you feel good about yourself and you're walking with confidence, your head's up and you're smiling and you're radiating, people are going to gravitate towards you. And you never know who you're talking to. It'll change your freaking life, man. I concur. It's interesting how when you radiate this positive energy, just like negative energy, it is infectious. It does carry over. It's the reason why I'm on this podcast.

[00:43:32] Yeah. And I was glad we made time for this, guys, because like I. There are so I actually kind of use it as kind of a. Podcast test, like I actually joined a new podcast, like network and their whole rule was don't talk smack about other podcasts. I'm like, that's a wonderful rule, because I can name you plenty who I used to listen to. They were very clever comedians.

[00:44:00] And then they got just too over the top. They were snobby. They it sounded like they had recorded two siblings or friends arguing with one another. That's not really what I would call entertainment. That's just annoying. Absolutely. Instead of, hey, let me do a wacky take on the news. Hey, let me do. Watch bad movies and give you my two cents. Hey, let's talk about music and why I can't listen to this CD anymore, even though I grew up with it in college. It's there's so many different ways.

[00:44:30] And it's funny how I had a before we go, I had a wonderful assignment in a speaking class in college. And it was one of the best and hardest assignments I ever got. But look at look up five public speakers who you like and look up five public talks that even if you don't think they're bad, like you couldn't get into it.

[00:44:55] Like the subject was really thick and they didn't lay it out too well, even though they were using all the right words or the speaker was great, but they were moving their hands around very distractingly. Their body language was a little off putting. You know, it was a great assignment for me. I was like, I'm looking at all these TED talks. I am nowhere near their capacity. But yeah, this one I had a little trouble getting into. It was a historical topic I was not well read up on or this person was fine.

[00:45:24] I just I'm not a sports guy, so I didn't I didn't follow the baseball slogans they were using. But it was interesting. Just then then the ones that are really good. It's like, oh, I can talk about these guys for days. It's like they really made technology make better sense or they had a great. They too had some cool goal settings in times of struggle. And it's like it. It's interesting having to. And I mean, hence why you guys do what you do.

[00:45:53] It's having to come up with clever ways to state the same thing we all look up to and make it fresh and new again. It's yeah. Yeah, it's hypnotizing. It's awesome. Yeah. Yeah. Awesome, bro. So, yeah. So, Jacoby, you're on Fred's and Natasha, you have your website. I'll be sure to link those. Is there any other plugs you guys would like before we go?

[00:46:22] You know, I'm working with a company that's blowing up that's based out of Orlando, Florida right now. It's called Totem Coach. Totem Coach. And we're doing big things. We're partnering with some big brands. You know, we got some high-level NBA skill coaches in the mix with some high-level athletes like Angel Reese. And yeah, we're just doing really big things. And I'm right there on the front line, part of those guys, and we're crushing it.

[00:46:52] So, love to shout those guys out. Lovely. Hey. Totem Coach. Very neat. Totem Coach. Okay. Wonderful. Great. Natasa, you have any other promotion you would like to do before we? No. Hey, promo yourself, girl. You better put it all out there right now.

[00:47:14] Other than my Hardin Huddle that you guys already know, go follow, like, go to the website, www.hardinhuddle.com. But that's about it. Okay. Hey, very nice. But this was really just intriguing, just in that it was also just kind of coming to terms with all kinds of things.

[00:47:38] I find, you know, no one's invincible, so all we can do is just keep reminding each other, hey, you know, like... Yeah, I agree. Stuff we got to work on. A thousand percent, brother. Well, glad we're all finding new challenges to work on. Heck yeah. Yeah. Let's go. 2025. To the moon. To the moon. To the moon, my guy. You already know. Hey, you're going to see me on MTV, man.

[00:48:08] You better watch out. I hope. Yeah. That'd be great. Yeah, I'm dead ass, man. I'm dead ass. I'm going to cast, like, in the first week of January. Okay, sweet. Oh, nice. Yeah. I hope to see you do some dancing in a video promo. You'll be like, that's Jacoby. He was on my podcast. I knew that guy. Got it. I'll let you know if any other panels come up in the future. Look for this episode definitely in March.

[00:48:37] I'll read it to you guys into another great segment. And I'll keep you updated and posted. Yeah. Thank you, bro. Let me know if you want a copy. Thank you so much. Sure. I would love a copy of it, you know? I would too. Okay, perfect. Thank you. I'll keep updating you on that. No flaking. Thank you, bro. He's getting to work. No, thank you guys. This was wonderful. And see, everyone's ready to go. Late at night. I already want to go for a jog.

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