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[00:00:29] You are now listening to Dreas Point of View, a female hosted podcast
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[00:00:55] Without further ado, here's your hostess, Dreas.
[00:01:03] You are listening to Dreas Point of View.
[00:01:05] I am your hostess, Dreas.
[00:01:06] And something's been on my mind for a while.
[00:01:11] And I just wanted to do a show about it, especially after listening to another
[00:01:16] podcast or talk about her name being mispronounced.
[00:01:21] So she just shortened it.
[00:01:22] I don't remember her saying what her whole name is, but I do know she goes by T as a first
[00:01:30] name because it's short.
[00:01:32] And that brings me to mine, my stories throughout the years.
[00:01:37] First 20, 25 years or so of my life.
[00:01:40] Everyone pretty much just called me what they wanted to call me.
[00:01:42] And usually it was Andrea.
[00:01:43] I didn't correct anybody.
[00:01:44] I just, okay, that's what they want to call me.
[00:01:46] I don't like it, but that's what they want to call me.
[00:01:49] I'll answer.
[00:01:51] I remember a conversation my parents had a long time ago.
[00:01:54] My mom would call me Andrea.
[00:01:56] My dad would call me Andrea.
[00:01:57] He she corrected them one time she did.
[00:02:00] And she was like, it's Andrea, not Andrea.
[00:02:02] And he was like, I'll call her.
[00:02:03] Why do I want to call her?
[00:02:05] And I was like, oh, OK.
[00:02:06] Wow.
[00:02:06] This is that's how it is, I guess.
[00:02:08] Then side note, he said if I were a boy, I'd be called Andre.
[00:02:12] I'm like, OK, thanks for the creativity dad.
[00:02:14] Appreciate it.
[00:02:15] So I'd say the second half of my life.
[00:02:21] My name was an issue.
[00:02:23] You got this pronunciation, that pronunciation, pronunciation.
[00:02:27] Andrea, Andrea, Andrea, how do you pronounce it?
[00:02:31] And then when you tell them how you pronounce it, they'll say, well,
[00:02:34] their wife pronounces it so and so or their sister or whatever.
[00:02:37] I don't know why they're telling me that.
[00:02:38] Like, I don't care how somebody else pronounces their name.
[00:02:41] So what?
[00:02:41] That's them.
[00:02:42] And my supposed to change the way I pronounce it because they say it
[00:02:46] a certain way.
[00:02:47] I don't get that conversation.
[00:02:48] Then you get theirs.
[00:02:49] How do you say it this way or that way?
[00:02:52] I mean, I kind of appreciate it, but it started to get old.
[00:02:55] And then you get those who just say it or they want to say it.
[00:02:57] So I'm like, OK, I guess I'm this today.
[00:02:59] And it's usually the way that I don't like.
[00:03:00] I don't really like Andrea.
[00:03:02] That that way I don't like it.
[00:03:04] So I'm like, there's got to be a better way.
[00:03:06] There's got to be a way for me to just cut these silly conversations short.
[00:03:11] So I just started going with Dre.
[00:03:13] Now, I remember back in high school, some good friends of mine,
[00:03:16] they called me Andy.
[00:03:17] I didn't mind.
[00:03:18] Didn't mind that too much.
[00:03:19] I was cute and I and I.
[00:03:22] That's cute.
[00:03:23] And then as I got older, I'd have some people would call me Dre.
[00:03:28] OK, that was kind of cool too.
[00:03:31] But now I'm like, I want to tap into my feminine side.
[00:03:36] It's a little bit so let's just stick with Dre.
[00:03:39] And it's interesting when you tell people that they're like, oh, I like that.
[00:03:42] That's nice.
[00:03:42] I'm like, OK, thank you for liking my name.
[00:03:44] It's easy to pronounce.
[00:03:45] You can't trip over that.
[00:03:47] Although some people who do try, I correct them because I'm like,
[00:03:50] you can't mess up two syllables.
[00:03:51] I know you know how to say everything else.
[00:03:53] Don't mess up somebody's name.
[00:03:54] So the least you can do is say someone's name, how they wanted to be said.
[00:03:58] Do you take it upon yourself to shorten somebody's name?
[00:04:00] Like, say if they say Josephine, do you automatically call him Joe
[00:04:03] or the name of Giovanni?
[00:04:05] Do you automatically call him Bonnie?
[00:04:06] No, you don't.
[00:04:07] Or you shouldn't ask people what they want to be called and respect that.
[00:04:11] I don't know what's so hard about that.
[00:04:14] What about to?
[00:04:14] I know I had a conversation with a friend of mine.
[00:04:16] She was talking about we had the whole ma'am conversation.
[00:04:19] Like I don't mind when somebody calls me ma'am.
[00:04:21] I love it.
[00:04:22] I appreciate it.
[00:04:23] Show us how to respect makes me feel like an adult.
[00:04:25] Call me ma'am all day.
[00:04:28] She hates it.
[00:04:29] Now we're the same age born a week apart.
[00:04:31] She hates it.
[00:04:32] She's like, you know, when her southern cousins come to town,
[00:04:36] she doesn't mind it, but she just can't stand it.
[00:04:39] It's a sign of respect.
[00:04:40] Don't know why she wouldn't like it.
[00:04:41] Guess it makes her feel older.
[00:04:43] Well, we are getting up there.
[00:04:44] Can't run from it.
[00:04:45] She likes the sweetie honey stuff.
[00:04:48] I do not.
[00:04:48] That's one thing I do not like to me.
[00:04:50] It's condescending.
[00:04:51] It's mainly women who do that.
[00:04:53] You go somewhere.
[00:04:53] I sweetie, thanks sweetie.
[00:04:55] Can I help you honey?
[00:04:56] Like what is that?
[00:04:57] Is that supposed to be sweet or cute or make me feel cute?
[00:05:00] Because it doesn't.
[00:05:01] I hate it.
[00:05:02] I basically feel like I'm a kid.
[00:05:03] I don't like it, but like I said, she likes it.
[00:05:05] So everybody likes different nicknames and pet names.
[00:05:11] I never was a fan of any of that.
[00:05:12] I just don't really.
[00:05:14] I don't know.
[00:05:15] I don't I don't like that.
[00:05:16] Like ask me if I mind you calling me something or just stick with miss and ma'am.
[00:05:21] What's with the sweetie honey stuff?
[00:05:22] Mom's never called me that.
[00:05:24] She gave me a nickname though.
[00:05:26] And that kind of stuck with me.
[00:05:27] She used to call me pumpkin.
[00:05:28] I like that.
[00:05:29] You know, his mom.
[00:05:30] But other than that, let's just call me miss ma'am or let's stick with Draya.
[00:05:37] I don't know.
[00:05:37] People get too comfortable and then the same with pronouns as well.
[00:05:42] That seems to be an issue the past few years.
[00:05:45] What people like to be called she her it he day.
[00:05:50] I never really ran across a person.
[00:05:53] I've read about it that people like to be referred to as certain things.
[00:05:59] You tell me what your name is and then I'm going to call you that.
[00:06:02] And then to at my job, I call people sir miss if they have a problem,
[00:06:07] they can correct me.
[00:06:08] But if you look like that, that's what I'm going to call you.
[00:06:11] But I respect that enough.
[00:06:12] If you tell me, then I will switch it up.
[00:06:16] But yeah, I just think we need to respect each other's names enough.
[00:06:22] To call them what we want to be called.
[00:06:26] You know, for the first 20 years of my life, my name never been an issue,
[00:06:31] like I said, but then after that, it was a whole conversation on my name,
[00:06:36] pronunciation, I don't know the things that people get caught up with.
[00:06:39] How does my name affect your world?
[00:06:41] We don't have to talk really.
[00:06:42] You could you can just continue with the miss or ma'am.
[00:06:45] But yeah, it's Draya.
[00:06:47] Let's not try and switch that up.
[00:06:50] Let's not try and get comfortable and call me what you want to call me.
[00:06:53] I don't do that.
[00:06:55] So just be mindful of that when you're talking to someone.
[00:06:57] Please don't give him a nickname unless you know him that really,
[00:07:01] you know, the level of comfort you have to have to call someone
[00:07:04] something they don't like.
[00:07:06] This guy did that recently to me and.
[00:07:11] I didn't I had to kind of correct him.
[00:07:12] He gave me a nickname.
[00:07:15] And I'm like, where'd that really come from?
[00:07:18] And then he's, you know, he stated his reason.
[00:07:20] I'm like, yeah, I don't I don't like that.
[00:07:23] And he said, well, I can just call you Draya.
[00:07:25] Andrea said, yeah, I'd appreciate that.
[00:07:27] Let's let's give each other nicknames.
[00:07:30] We're not cool like that, you know?
[00:07:32] So yeah, let's just respect each other enough to call each other.
[00:07:38] The birth name we were given or the name that we tell each other.
[00:07:42] I know once somebody was like, oh, is that short for Andrea?
[00:07:45] What difference does it make?
[00:07:46] The name that you see is a name that I like to be called.
[00:07:51] Please and thank you.
[00:07:54] With that being said, do I have a podcast of the day?
[00:08:00] I do not.
[00:08:03] I actually don't have a podcast of the day for this one.
[00:08:07] I just wanted to talk about something
[00:08:09] that has been on my mind for a while and share it with you.
[00:08:14] I don't know.
[00:08:15] I'm sure someone else can relate
[00:08:17] because there are so many different names out there
[00:08:19] and people just are so comfortable nowadays
[00:08:23] and calling you what they want.
[00:08:25] Actually, I take that back.
[00:08:27] The one I got the idea for this episode from
[00:08:30] by mentioning how she deals with the whole name
[00:08:34] and incorrect spellings or pronunciation of names.
[00:08:38] Bear in mind podcast.
[00:08:41] She is a podcaster of color
[00:08:45] and she goes by the name T.
[00:08:47] She can be found on Spotify.
[00:08:50] Check her out.
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