Ep.254 - Take Care of your parents

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[00:01:20] And greetings, greetings, greetings, greetings, greetings! Welcome to the X and Y Show, and I'm your host, Roosevelt. So, I know a lot of you have really wondered, where have I been? Well, but it's simple. I was thinking about quitting X and Y Show.

[00:01:48] It was just, I don't know. You know, sometimes you do something and you feel like it's time to do something else. So, that's what I was caught up in. And, you know, I was just doing a lot of thinking.

[00:02:13] But, you know, I, you know, for those of you who don't know, I've been doing this a long time. You know, a lot of, some people actually think that I started around Kevin Samuels. I was doing this a long time before Kevin Samuels. And, you know, a lot of other people, you check the X and Y Show, my episodes go back more than six, seven, eight years. I think nine years, ten years even.

[00:02:44] So, I've been doing this a while. And, you know, sometimes you think about, you know, like, why am I doing this? And, you know, because I'm not getting paid. You know, I'm not making no money. I'm not Joe Rogan or nobody making all this dough. But I don't do it for the money. I do it for the enjoyment.

[00:03:09] I do it for, to have a platform and talk about shit that many people don't want to talk about. So, that's why I do it. And, you know, when I was thinking about quitting the show, I just came back to the, you know, that I'll be giving up my platform. And then I actually enjoy doing the show. But I do realize that there are some changes that are needed. Because I was basically getting burnt out.

[00:03:40] You know, I was doing, up until, you know, when I went back to school a couple years ago. And, you know, I really have been going strong ever since. You know, kind of no break. And I'm like, even the big dogs take breaks. You know? So, I think that that was a lot of it. I was just getting burnt out. So, I'm going to take breaks periodically during the season. Like I do from March through June.

[00:04:10] Take a break. Maybe the whole month of July. And, you know, come back that way. But I'll announce them during the season. But I think that I need to start taking breaks. That will definitely help me. And I think that was most of the problem. I'm just getting burnt out, you know. And I can't let you guys go. You know? I can't let you go. You need me. You women, especially.

[00:04:39] You need me. A lot of you don't think you do. But you need me. And I couldn't let you down. So, in essence, I'm coming back because of you. I thought about it. I can't leave them hanging like that. I got to get back to my peeps. And that's you, women, guys too, X and Y. But I just couldn't leave you like that. So, I had to come back. It just felt right. But I needed a break.

[00:05:08] For those of you who follow me a lot, you know that I haven't done a show since December. Was it December or September or October? I don't even remember. It's been a while. I was in the middle of the bird season. Now, you know how I feel about the bird season. The bird months. I didn't make any episodes for most of December. November.

[00:05:39] And the new year, January. I've just been doing a lot of thinking. But that's over now. And I am back. X and Y show is back. In full effect. So, I'm glad to be back. I know that you are glad to have me back. Especially the ladies. A lot of ladies love me. They act like they don't like me.

[00:06:06] You know, through colorful emails and so forth. When I tell them shit that they don't want to hear. But, you know, I know they really do love me. And I know if they ever meet me, they will hug me. You know? So, you know, I feel the love. I appreciate the love. I'm glad to be back. And that's all I have to say. So, without further ado. So, a lot has happened since we talked.

[00:06:36] A lot of people have died. A lot of people have died. And I'm talking about celebrities. You know. You know. A lot of musicians. Roberta Flack. Dwayne Wiggins from Tony Tony Tone. Those of you know them. One of my favorite bands. Jasper. From Izzy Brothers. You know.

[00:07:06] I was just talking about that dude with my cousin the other day. And. And then he passed like two days later. So, a lot of people are going on to the next level. You know. And. That's. You know. That kind of thing. Start to affect anyone. Even though I don't know these people personally. But. You know. I. You still. See. You know. Death. You know. It affects everyone.

[00:07:37] And. That's why I can't understand why someone would. Actually want to go through this life. Alone. Alone. Particularly women. Um. And I say that because a lot of women are always saying they're independent. They don't need a man. They're happy to be alone. And all this other bullshit. And that's all it is. It's bullshit. It's not true. Deep down. Women.

[00:08:06] Do not want to be alone. They shouldn't want to be alone. If they really do want to be alone. Then they are not mentally stable. Um. A lot of women are in need. Desperately. Of therapy. And they don't never receive it. Um. Men too. Um. But I don't hear men saying. I'm okay with being alone. Like I do women. You know. There are also men like. I'm divorced. You know. I'm gonna play the field. And I'll probably never get married again.

[00:08:36] But it's women out there. Who have never been married. No kids. No. You know. No. Significant other. Nothing. And they're happy with that. That's not normal. That's not normal. So. You know. I'm looking at these people who are dying. And passing. You know. They have families. And I'm like. You know. Cause. When certain part of. Parts of my family pass on. Um. And you know.

[00:09:05] If it wasn't for my family. I don't know how I would get through it. You know. Nobody's that tough. A lot of you people out there saying. You're tough. You'll get through it. And take day by day. Yeah. And that's all fine. That sounds good. For TV. And. And books. And all that kind of stuff. But in reality. Are you. Really okay. Sometimes you need someone. Someone. To. Talk to.

[00:09:34] Sometimes you need someone. To. Vent. Your feelings with. And sometimes. You know. A lot of people never mourn. Properly. A lot of people never get that therapy. That they need. Um. I have family members. Right now. Who have had family members pass. In their immediate families. And I don't think they ever really gotten over it. I have no friends like that.

[00:10:02] They never really gotten over it. And you know. They go through life. Needing therapy. It gets worse. And it's worse because. It's. It's been. It hasn't been addressed. So. You know. Death. Comes quick. You know. I mean. How many of you. Think. You're a kid. And. You know. I can't wait to grow up. And now. You're in your forties. And fifties. And.

[00:10:32] Having arthritis. And. You know. You can't do things like you used to. Can't hold your pee. And. You know. You walk funny. And start needing a cane. You know. All kind of shit. You start to get old. And. Who wants to go through that. Alone. That's all I'm saying. So. That brings me. To tonight's episode. Another person who.

[00:11:02] Well. I'm going to tell you the name. Of the episode first. Take care of your parents. Take. Care. Of your parents. And I say that because of another person who passed an actor. Gene Hackman. Um. He. Was found. Deceased. In his house. With his wife. Um. I know Gene Hackman. Was.

[00:11:32] Ninety five. Years old. Somewhere around there. He had. Vance Alzheimer's disease. And his wife was in her sixties. I believe. I think he was sixty five. Um. So they both was found deceased. And one of their dogs were deceased. Um. So. You know. When I heard this story. The first thing I was thinking. Uh. Like it was. Some kind of suicide. Or something maybe.

[00:12:02] Um. Cause you know. It wasn't much information. But later on it came out. That she actually died of. Of. Natural causes. And. You know. So she died first. And then he was there. With the vance. Alzheimer's. And I guess later. He passed. You know. As well. So. You know. Then when I found out. It was like that. My thing is.

[00:12:31] Where were the kids? Where was. His children. And I think one of them called. And. And. You know. They didn't get a response. In a week. So then they checked in. And. Told somebody. After a fucking week. And. That's just. Straight up bullshit. I. I. I'm. I'm sorry. I. You know. And.

[00:12:59] I'm not saying that I'm perfect. Because I'm definitely not. I try to call. My mom. She's the only one living that my dad passed. Years ago. In 2010. Um. And I still think about my dad. It's 2025. And I still think about my dad. So you never really get over it. You just learn to. Uh. Live with it. Um. So my thing is. You know. If.

[00:13:29] If I'm calling my parents. You know. I call my mom. At least every other day. I try to call her every day. But sometimes I just don't. Um. But at least. Every other day. Every other day. I'm going to call her. And if I don't hear from her. In. That day. You know. If I call back. And. I'm calling someone. To go check on her. And actually. I have cameras in the house. We. You know. Me and my brother and sister. We bought cameras. Even though my sister lives there.

[00:13:58] But sometimes. She has to step out. Or whatever. So we have. Monitor. We were able to monitor her. We don't get an answer. We looking on the cameras. Because she's elderly. She's 91 years old. You know. We care about our mother. And we want to make sure. That nothing happens. Where. She's alone. No one's there. To help her. She. You know. She's helpless. And can't do anything. We have it where.

[00:14:29] You know. That won't happen. And that's what I understand. You know. These. These. Kids. They're grown now. You know. They're. They're grown. Grown. 50s and 60s. And shit. How the fuck. You don't. Check on your parents. You know. After not hearing from them in a week. Knowing your dad has. Advanced Alzheimer's. And the mom.

[00:14:58] You ever heard from her. Or the stepmom. Some of them. I'm like. Where the fuck were they? You know. And the first thing. That come to my mind. If they would have been. Any kind of worth it. Any kind of damn. Maybe. They could have saved Dean Hackman. You know. They could have got there earlier. They could have maybe saved him. Who knows. But my thing is. And I'm not harping on them. You know. There's a lot of.

[00:15:28] Families out there. That are not close. And that's. Just something I don't get. But. I think. You know. We have to get better. As a society. We have to take care. Of our parents. Who have sacrificed so much. Now. I know some of you. Grew up. With a fucked up life. Your parents did shit. That. You know. You really. Barely can forgive them. Before. You know. Your dad left. Your family. Or.

[00:15:59] Your mom. Used to. Drink. Or slap you up. Whatever. But. If you. Had a. Pretty much. Normal. Life. Now. We all. Have problems. You know. Your parents grew up. Alcoholics. And. People made mistakes. You know. Your father left the family. You know. He was young. Young. Or. Your mom left the family. She was young. And. Everybody made mistakes. And. We have to learn.

[00:16:29] To forgive. Those people gave you life. They gave you life. They gave you life. That's your mom. And your dad. Your mother. And your father. Your pop. And your mom. They deserve the respect. From their children. Children. And when they get older. You know. I can't imagine. You know. I'm trying to. Wrap my head around. If I had Alzheimer's.

[00:16:59] I'm in the house. 95 years old. And a lot. You know. The reports are saying. That he didn't know. That his wife. Was dead. And all kind of stuff. That's bullshit. I mean. We'll never know. Because we weren't there. But I. I mean. He was still. Painting. And. Doing things. Um. And it's not that they're. You know. Yeah. But Alzheimer's. You're not stupid. So. I mean. He's seen his wife. With no. Response.

[00:17:28] I'm sure. And knew something was wrong. And I just can't imagine him. Being there. Alone. You know. Nobody. Nobody to help. You know. They have kids. But no. Nobody's around. You know. A lot of people are saying. Well. They're living their own lives. They had things to do. But I guarantee you. When it's time to read the will.

[00:17:58] And they're dividing. Gene Hatman's estate. I guarantee you. They are. There then. They'll be on time. For that part. They'll make sure. Everything's appropriated. And allocated properly. They'll be there for that. But. They were not there. I don't care how you. Put it. How you twist it. They failed. Their father. And not being there for him. When he needed him.

[00:18:28] And their stepmother. They failed him. But not being there. When they needed him. Needed them. And a lot of you. Are there like this. A lot of you are out there. You know. I don't. I haven't talked to my mom. In 10 years. Haven't talked to my dad. In 15 years. And don't. Don't really want to talk to him. Some of you motherfuckers. Are proud of that shit. Some of you relish that shit. Oh.

[00:18:57] I don't talk to my mom. I don't talk to my dad. He's an asshole. I don't talk to him. And I'm going to tell you something. When I hear a woman. Talks like. Who talks like that. She's automatically disqualified. Automatically. I don't care how fine she is. I don't care how hairy her pussy is. You know I like hairy pussy. Right. She can have the hairst pussy in the world. I don't care how hairy her pussy is. I don't care how fine she is. I don't have.

[00:19:27] I don't care how big her titties is. I don't care how smart she is. I don't care if she actually bathes her ass. Twice a day. You know. Like I like. You know. A woman to bathes her. She is automatically disqualified. If she is not honoring. And respecting her own parents. She will never honor and respect mine. That's the way I'm taking it. If she's not taking care of her own mom or dad.

[00:19:57] She don't give a fuck about mine. You know. My parents might fall ill. And they might need to come live with us. Do you think she'd be cool with that? Fuck no. Because she's not close to her parents. Or she had some messed up revelation with her parents. So she don't understand you trying to take care of your parents. So I wouldn't even mess with a woman like that. Who doesn't get along.

[00:20:24] Or doesn't really spend time. Or don't love her parents. You don't love. A woman that don't love her parents. How she gonna ever love someone else? I wouldn't trust that. And you know. That's. There's a lot of people out there. That are like that. Women and men. Who fail.

[00:20:53] In the basic. Responsibility. Of taking care of their parents. You know. I think about that. As I get older. You know. I hope that. If I do have kids one day. That I do have one. Who's. Like me. And I'm not saying that. Like me. Like I'm perfect. I'm perfect. Because I'm not.

[00:21:23] But I do try. I do try. And I really. Try to do things for my mom. As much as I can. You know. Even though I'm not in Miami. I'm still. Close. And I go home and visit. And help out. And stuff. So I'm there. I'm just not there. Full time. And actually. If I had a house. I would probably. Have my mom with me. Half the time of the year.

[00:21:54] You know. For sure. But. You know. My situation is a little different. Because my mom. You know. She has a house. And she's not leaving. So. You know. You got to deal with that. Aspect of it. You know. Sometimes parents. Don't want to leave their homes. So. So. You know. There's other things you can do. Right. The siblings must chip in.

[00:22:23] And checking in on your. Your. Your. Your parents. And making sure they're okay. Doing other features. Like getting cameras in the house. Making sure they're okay. So they won't be alone. In a time of need. Those people gave you life. And now they're old. Now they need you. This is the time that they need you. Forget all what. Happened. 20. 30. 40 years ago. They were different people then. You were different.

[00:22:53] We have to learn how to forgive. We can't hold grudges against our parents. And I'm not saying that Gene Hackman. Parents. Kids had grudges against him. I don't know. I don't know his kids. I know he has three kids. But I couldn't tell you what they look like. I don't know their names. I don't know shit about them. But all I'm saying is. They were dead in the house. A week. Where the fuck were they?

[00:23:23] Where the fuck was these kids? Ain't nobody that fucking busy. You can't check on your father. Who has. Advanced Alzheimer's disease. You can't check on your father. Where the fuck were they? That's my question. They were there more than a week. At least a week. Probably more than a week. So what the fuck were they? There's no way that would have happened to my mom. No way.

[00:23:54] Because I love my mom. And I'm going to take care of her now. Because she needs it. I'm not. Going to allow her to be a burden. And I'll tell you some folks. That shit come back to haunt you. Karma is a motherfucker. Gene Hattman's kids might find themselves. 20 years from now. On the bathroom floor. Can't get up. Can't you know. Can't get up or. Can't help themselves.

[00:24:24] Find themselves alone. And their kids are nowhere to be found. They might find that shit to come back on them. Karma is a motherfucker. And I'm not picking on them. You know. They're not the worst kids in the nation. I'm just saying that because there was a high profile death. And everyone knows Gene Hattman. Right. But there's other regular people that happens to. You know. Every day.

[00:24:53] Your next door neighbors. Your elderly neighbors who. Have kids. But you never see them come over to visit. And they're living in the same state. Living in the same city. You never seen them before. That's what I'm talking about. I work with a woman. Who's a very nice lady. Her kids never come see her. And they're young. You know. All of them are like under 30.

[00:25:23] I think she might have one that's 32. But they're young. And they're not poor. They're affluent. One of them's a doctor. And all. You know. They have money. They can. They don't come see their mother. Very nice woman. Now I don't know what happened. They're behind closed doors. Maybe she did something. I don't know. But all I'm saying is. Nothing warrants to be. Angry with your. Mother.

[00:25:52] Or your father forever. They did something that. To you. 30 years ago. 40. Let that shit go. It'd be better for you. And to harbor that shit. Inside of you forever. And then you know. The funny thing is. When they do pay. Oh my daddy. Oh my mom. Oh my mom. Oh. I wish we could have. Oh my mom. Dad. No dad. What am I going to do without. It's too late.

[00:26:23] It's too late now. Motherfuckers always trying to reconcile. When someone's in the ground. Or feel better by bringing them. Two boatloads of flowers and shit. That's my mom. Do something when it's. When you can. Give them their flowers now. That's my worst nightmare. Like.

[00:26:53] You know. I'm going back. My story. The last time I. Went to Alaska to work. You know. My dad. He felt a little ill. But he was okay. But you know. He felt a little ill. And I couldn't find work. In Miami. Of course. Miami was a fucked up city. But that's another episode. So. I had to go back to Alaska.

[00:27:23] To get work. Right. But you know. It came across my mind. That. Maybe I shouldn't go. Because my dad. He. He's not sick. But you know. He is. More fragile. I'll say. Right. But you know. Then I said. Well I got to work. Got to get. I got to get. You know. An income. My brother's here. My sister's here. You know. He'd be okay. I work. Go to Alaska. For another two. Three years. And then come back.

[00:27:54] And I was in Alaska. For maybe. Maybe. Three months. Past. And I think about. Man. If I would have known. That. You know. I didn't get to say goodbye. You know. I didn't see him in the hospital. Or. You know. I wasn't there. Where I could have came. To the house. I didn't get to say goodbye. I was in Alaska.

[00:28:24] And if I would have known that. I would have. I wouldn't have gone. I would have just. You know. Fought it out. Trying to get a job. And fucked up Miami. But. You know. I don't want that to happen with my mom. You know. Comes a time when she needs me. And I'm not there. I can't say goodbye. And then she passes. That would eat me alive. Like it has been for my dad. That. It really. In fact. It affects me. And I'll admit.

[00:28:55] You know. At times I believe I need therapy about that. So that's why I'm trying to prevent this from happening to you. You know. Your mom and dad is alive. You know. It's still time. Time. Time is. Very. Mighty aspect in our lives. You know. Their time is so long. But a lot of times you don't have much of it.

[00:29:26] So while you have the time. You have to appreciate. People. Particularly your parents. Take care of your parents. You only have one. Sit. You only have your mom and your dad. For those of you who are lucky to have both still with you. You're really lucky. Nobody is that busy. I don't give a fuck if you got a family of five. And two dogs and a fence.

[00:29:56] Nobody is that busy. Go pick up your parents. So your parents don't live in the same state. Visit them. Take the whole family there. For. Spring break or some shit. Or bring your parents to you. If they. You know. They're able to. Hang out. You know. Live in your house. Just do things. You got to spend time with your parents. While you have them. Make sure your parents are okay.

[00:30:26] Make sure your parents. Are not alone. Take care of your parents. Make sure your parents are not left in the house. For a week. Before someone finds them. Before strangers find your mom. Your dad. Make sure that don't happen to you. Those people gave you life. And they was. They deserve respect.

[00:30:58] And regardless of what they did. They deserve your love. Love. You don't have a right to hate your parents. And like I said before. If I see a woman. Or hear a woman that. Hate her parents. Hate her mom. And. Don't respect your dad. Don't love her dad. What. She's not going to respect me. She's automatically disqualified. I would never get with a woman like that. And vice versa. Women.

[00:31:27] If you see a man talking about his parents. And. I can't stand them. And. I can't be around them. And don't respect his mother. He's not going to respect you. It says a lot about a person. Who don't respect. Their parents. And every time someone talks about. They don't get along with their mom and dad. I'm automatically thinking. That this motherfucker is crazy.

[00:31:56] And I don't want to be around him. So. That's all I'm saying. Take care of your parents. Make sure your parents are not. Alone. When they really need you. Make sure. When something happens that. Doesn't take a week or more. For some stranger to find them. Make sure you're the one. To say goodbye.

[00:32:27] That's all I have to say. That includes this episode. Of the X and Y show. This is my first episode. Since I'm. Back. Glad to be back. I feel it again. I really do. And I'm alright now. I just needed a break. So. I really love you guys. Thank you for supporting me over the years. Be sure to check out. Any episodes that you may have missed. Or forgotten about. I'm on Twitter. Or X. Whatever the fuck it is now.

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